
“The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh
― Thich Nhat Hanh
Diagnose Your Relationship Illness:
Which patterns are familiar? Link: The Four Horsemen Link: Contempt Link: Defensiveness Link: Defensiveness & Blind Spots Link & Video: Stonewalling Link: Antidotes to the Four Horsemen Link: Antidotes to Defensiveness Link: Tips for Turning Towards Your Partner Listen & Learn: Gottman Interviews on YouTube Date Night IdeasEstablish Your Date Night Right Now!
Pick a night this week and then text your partner to save that evening to clear their work-oriented schedule to spend some "adult play time" with you. Date Nights are a ritual for connection that can be a "Formal Date" where you get dressed up and surprise each other or "Informal Date" where you meet at your favorite place to eat and just connect without the pressures of the household, the kids, or ongoing work demands. Those things to do will always be there whether you have someone to love or not. So, take care of your Lover, you chose them for a reason! Use your date night to tell them why they still matter! Take turns planning the dates so that one person doesn't begin to feel pressure and so that you can take turns finding ways to surprise one another and make each other smile. Need some ideas? Check out the Links below!
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NationalMarriageSeminars.com/blog
Enduring Vulnerabilities ModernMarried.com 12 Ways to Make Marriage Last Modernmarried.com 4 Pillars of Trust Audiobook Link: 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work Article: 5 Kinds of Trust that Your Marriage Needs Marriage Quotes from The Happy Wives Club "A 6-second kiss is a kiss worth coming home to; a kiss with possibility." - John Gottman, Ph.D. |
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Couples Weekend Homework Exercises
Quiz: The Four Horsemen - An Introduction
Assignment: Self-Soothing Weekend Homework Assignment Assignment: Criticism Weekend Homework Assignment Assignment: Contempt Weekend Homework Assignment Quiz & Assignment: Turning Towards Each Other Quiz: Do You accept each others' Influence? Assignment: Have a Stress-Reducing Conversation Activities: Gottman IPhone Apps Activity: Shared Meaning over Date Night Dinner Activity: Love Maps 20 Questions Game Activity: Turn Towards Your Child Reading: Fair Fighting & Repair Attempts Print this out! Repair Attempt Checklist |
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Bringing Sexy Back...
Tips to spice up your love life!!
Quiz Link: Assessing the quality of sex, romance, and passion in your relationship!!
Activity: Creating a Ritual for Initiating Sex... or No
Couples Resources & QuizzesSite: GottSex Institute www.gottsex.com
Sexual Health Fundamentals: Topic: The Top 10 Myths behind Masturbation Fact Sheet: Top 10 Things to Know about Female Sexuality Fact Sheet: Quiz Link: Assessing the quality of sex, romance, and passion in your relationship! Activity: Questions to ask (Sex Maps) Topic: The Power of Touch Topic: Sex & Conversation Topic: the Importance of Communication & a Satisfying Sex Life Topics: Vibrator Addiction & Betrayal Topic: Sex Myth #1 - After Baby Comes... Considering Sex Therapy?
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Help! My partner does not seem to get me!
"Emotionally, we are like ships in the night..."Dr. John Gottman's research talks about conversations topics that block couples from moving forward. to a place of understanding, healthy decision making, or creating a shared meaning on important values, beliefs, and traditions.
Examples of these "Conversations We Never Have" include: Topic: Six Arguments All Couples Have Video Link: How To complain without hurting your partner - Julie Gottman Topic & Video: Don't Let it Come to This Video Link: What if we can't make it work? Thoughts on Divorce
Link: A Lesson on Contempt from the Gottman Institute Link: Conversation Skills - 3 Skills and 1 Rule Video Link: What do you do when softened start-up is not working? - Julie Gottman Link: Ideas for Defensiveness & Accepting Responsibility www.ModernMarried.com Link: Building Emotional Wealth One Deposit At A Time. ![]() Mistakes are like acts of self-betrayal. They're the moments when we did or said something that wasn't true to who we really are -- some moment when ego knocked us out of our shining place, when fear blocked our love, when a false sense of self prevailed, if only momentarily, and gained control of our personality. The truth of who we really are was not uncreated in that mistaken moment -- it was simply eclipsed -- and we can wait patiently for that perfect moment, certain to come around again, when we will have another chance to choose love over fear, authenticity over grandiosity, self-confidence over false modesty, and the light of our true being over the darkness of our wounded self." - Marianne Williamson
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I Think I Love Someone with ADD/ADHD.
DR. OZ Episode: IS ADHD Ruining Your Marriage?
Click here for a Link to Watch Episode
Click here for a Link to Watch Episode
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help. my partner has an addiction.
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